Kevin's surgery

My husband, Kevin just had surgery today on his shoulder. He had a tear in his rotator cuff. When the doctor did the operation they found more damage and made the correction. Kevin is all patched up now, but not ready to go home. The hospital wants to send him home. The doctor says that this kind of surgery is just fraught with pain. Kevin just needs to deal with the pain for now. Who knows for how long he will feel the pain, but this is what I am told is the case.

It is hard to see such a big guy go through this kind of pain and not be able to help alleviate his suffering. I went to the hospital, but then left. I have to go pick up her son from school and then pick up my husband from the hospital. Hopefully I will not have to pick him up during rush hour.

We all got up at 4 am to get him to the hospital by 6am for surgery check in. I am tired and wish I could just get in the bed and go back to sleep, but my family needs me and sleep will just have to wait. I hope Kahlil, my son, will be in a good mood this afternoon.

Family Road Trip

Does anyone still get in the car and drive? Whether your drive has a purpose or it is just an old fashioned Sunday drive. Kids, at least my kid doesn't like going for any drive that is not going to get food or going home from getting food. He gets worried when he gets in the car with mom and dad. When both mom and dad are in the car, there is a chance that the family is going somewhere as a family and that means, a long drive.

All the smart money says take toys and games for him to play with. Bring something to distract him with for the ride. I don't think about doing this until I am already out driving. I want my son to learn how to go along for the ride, but of course he hasn't so far. We took him for a long drive recently and you would have thought that someone was killing him. The complaining, the deal making and then finally he started screaming at us to turn this car around. He let out all his thoughts, "you two are fools, turn this car around, I am not going." Normally this is something that gets him in big trouble, but we were out in the middle of nowhere, well somewhere, but nowhere that I was familiar with, so what to do. Commit child abuse, stop the car, go straight home, no. I tried ignoring him, but that made it worse. I finally turned around in my seat and probably said the dumbest and most chancy thing of all, "you can get out right here if you want." He did not want to get out and he shut up on the spot.

I don't recommend asking your kid to make the choice to get out of the car when you are out on the road. I was so frustrated, my lack of planning and fore site almost did me in on that drive. Sometimes I do so things that I think, what the heck was that? I wouldn't even do that, but wait, I did do that, that was me. Was that an out of body experience? Was that my dream that this was happening, a nightmare, no that was a page from my life. Let me out, let me out of this car.

Getting what you need

It seems like it is easiest to get what you need, but not what you want. Everyone wants to give advice, but do we ever want to follow advice? What is the right advice and how do you know it when you see it or hear it being offered? Is it like seeing a sign on the road: turn right, road narrows, stop, no right turn on red. If it were only that simple.

Is getting what you want like picking fruit off from a tree. You find the tree that has the fruit you want and you just pick it off? If it were that simple.

What does any of this mean? Nonsense, that is what it means, just silly waste your time nonsense. Does it help, is it useful. Like many things you don't know until time is up. Ding, your time is up and did you get what you wanted or needed.

This guy, my son always seems to know what he wants and he knows how to get what he wants, even if he has to shout out or scream for it. He doesn't take no for an answer.

Weight loss secret, how to lose ten pounds in minutes

I found out how to lose weight fast. The secret is to place yourself stragetically in a photo between to people larger than you. My cousin came over wih his cousin, they are both big guys, so there you go, I automatically looked smaller. What you have to do is squeeze inbetween the two and have them kind of squeeze close to you and you will look smaller. If only I could walk around all day with them squeezing the weight away from me by block it out from view.

Cousin unknown

Today I talked to my cousin Joe on my dad's side. Joe is 38 and doesn't know me. This just is how our family works.

Someone that I know came by this morning and gave me his card. I looked at the card and said, hey this is my relative. She didn't come by to give me the card, but was instead visiting a neighbor and there I was so she gave me the card. She said that this man could help us make some money. I thought scam, but when I looked at the card, I thought family. It could be scam still, but now it's get scammed by your family. That's great, who wouldn't want to know the person that could scam them, but he is probably a great guy that I just have not know for 38 years, right.

I called him up and introduced myself. He is coming over at 4 pm today. I hope he can share in the family warmth that we don't have. What a family. He wanted to know why we don't know each other. That is like asking most people why the sky is blue, it is just too complicated to answer in one gulp. I told him that I don't generally invite strange men over. He said he wasn't a stranger, but a relative.

That's great a strange relative in the house this afternoon.

Not locked out

I got out of the house today, despite the fact that the front gate no longer works. My husband, we call him Pops, Kevin 1 (one, there is a two) and some other names I shouldn't mention here. When I got home from my worldly jaunts, there he was waiting for me. Apparently he did not have the key to the back door. When the door wouldn't open I went out the back gate. This makes me feel empowered when he has to count on me for something beside food.

Hopefully Kevin will go out and get a new lock for the door so we can go out another door besides the back. I should be glad that we have more than one way out of this palace, not really a palace, but hey some people are living on the street. I like the convenience of going out the front door, just call me crazy. We always have some funny stuff going on in this house. Like the time we had our stove and plumbing go out on Thanksgiving and everyone wanted to eat, but the oven just dropped dead. We asked a neighbor could we finish cooking the turkey at their house, the nerve, but we had to eat.

More important the door lock is to unlock my mind.

Brain loss

I am losing my mind. I am not sure if it is in bits and pieces or some days just the whole thing. Many times I can't figure out how to say something. I can't remember how to spell. Many days I insist on using a certain word and I just wont relent. I have looked pretty stupid to people when I make them wait to catch up with my brain.

One day I was looking at a (there it goes now).....blimp, that is the word, and could not for the life of me remember what the thing was, I was so frustrated. This has happened to me a lot in this last decade. We all thought that the economy was the only place that we were losing something, but the brain loss is crazy for me. I am not use to looking at something and then drawing a blank. I have always had trouble remembering names of people, but I could always remember account numbers, telephone numbers and spell most words.

We can't have two people in our home losing their brains. My husband almost never remembers stuff. I tell him something and he says, "you didn't tell me that." I thought it was just me, but I think it is a brain drain.

Thank the Internet for Google otherwise I wouldn't know where to look for stuff.

I can't get out

This morning I went to open the front door, actually the iron security screen door, and it wouldn't open. I put the key in and nothing. I tried another key nothing. I went outside and tried it from the outside, nothing, I guess I just didn't want to believe that another money drain had opened up. You homeowners know what I am talking about. Everything is going along fine and then some little problem comes up and whamo, you are spending money.

My husband left for the day. He went out the back gate, thank God for that. Typically he locks the gate with a lock that I don't have the key for, but this morning, strange thing, he didn't lock the gate or even close the gate. I am glad that he left that stupid gate open, if not I would be writing or calling or texting to get someone over to open that door. Sounds stupid, but I don't like going out the back. By the way, I didn't mention this, but we have a side gate and its locked and I don't have a key for that lock. I feel like a princesses, but not in a good way.

That's enough whining for now. I have to go get my mother in-law and take her to the 99 cent store, She needs hair gup.